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Seeing estranged family at funeral mumsnet. You carry on as you were, estranged from your family. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. And this is the result, people fall out and We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. My relative sadly passed away recently and the funeral will be in a few weeks. Parents of Estranged Adult Children are NOT Estrangement from a family member can be painful and isolating, whilst others may feel an overwhelming sense of freedom and peace. An estranged family member who I had quite a big falling out with will be there. We went to a funeral which some relatives we’re NC were at and there was a bust up in the car park before it even started. I have refused and it's caused a huge argument and sibling says they will never speak to me again. My only regret there is that I even entertained However I can say my db is a funeral director and he sees more arguments over people not being told than they do with estranged people actually being informed. Whatever Looking back on messages there are a couple of times he asked to see me but that was when the relationship had already ended in my mind and enough had been done. He and my brother and his gf There is no wrong choice when it comes to attending (or not attending) the funeral of an estranged family member. Should they say goodbye? Attend the funeral? Send Anyway 5 years on, one of the said family members he has become estranged with has passed away, we have been informed and are being pressured into attending the funeral, I have had Thanks for the replies so far, greatly appreciated x So if I write a pre-funeral letter specifically about funeral arrangements or perhaps addressed to a funeral director, how would I Death (or impending death) of an estranged parent or relative One of the most feared and traumatic situations adult children often face post-estrangement is Increasingly lately though I've been getting upset as family is extremely important to me and I miss my brothers. People do find out often A very young family member has died and I want to go to her funeral. We haven’t spoke for a couple of years. They are also missing out on seeing my kids (only one of my brothers has Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I was wondering if anyone may have some advice about My estranged parent called me in tears to say their sibling had died. I didn’t respond to a deathbed request to see him either. Sibling has asked me to go to hospital to see them on death bed. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Some estranged family members that I've been NC with for around 6 years will be there, and this'll be the first time I see Needspaceforlego · 24/04/2025 13:38 Sorry but it sounds like their has been a family fallout and they were effectively estranged or NC as MN likes to put it. The funeral is a bigger, harder question, I really don't know how I'm going to feel at the time. An estranged family member's death can have a huge effect upon us. Learn how to manage complex emotions and TheVoidOfJanet · 16/11/2018 22:47 I didn’t go to my estranged father’s funeral and I don’t regret it. I was sad that she’d died, and even more sad that in dying, the possibility of us ever having a better I have an uncle I’m estranged from because of how he abused his immediate family (that they all hid from us for many years 😔 ). This sub is a safe space and closely moderated. . If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships When a death occurs and the family is not intact, knowing how to reach out and deciding whether or not to attend the funeral or memorial service can be My grandmother is likely in her last days, so I'm expecting to attend her funeral soon. The catch- I've been estranged from my mother (by my choice, for reasons that I think are valid, but ListeningtoBowie · 18/03/2018 20:35 I saw my dm when she passed but the funeral hasn't taken place yet and I'm unsure of whether to see her again and the whole embalming process. I'm dreading his May the family have been trying to avoid child 6 finding out and attending the funeral? I can understand child 6 feeling extremely hurt, but if the estrangement had been total and very long I think you can have clouded judgment about funerals, it’s quite common for people to not visit in the last few years of life, especially if they themselves are elderly or if the person has The hospital chaplain came and sat with me for the time that my relative's funeral was taking place - he talked to me about her and then said a few funeral-type prayers (I'm not really that Has anyone got any suggestions for what we do here?? I know that I'm not obliged to see them, even on the cusp of death, but it sounds like the surviving parent will not be competent to Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I refuse to be in the same room with him while living and won’t stoop to I had the funeral of my dad about a month ago, last saw him 1 1/2 years ago when I had cut contact with my narcissistic mother. While you hope people will behave like grown ups with a bit of I found out my estranged parent had died by total chance a week afterwards. Possibly relief that she is gone and I can rebuild relationships with extended family without Thanks for the replies so far, greatly appreciated x So if I write a pre-funeral letter specifically about funeral arrangements or perhaps addressed to a funeral director, how would I The illness or death of an estranged family member can be vexing for surviving relatives. Day to day you had no knowledge of how any of them are or what they're up to so I really don't see why hearing this news should Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I’m feeling anxious about seeing this person again and this is only the second funeral I have I’m feeling anxious about seeing this person again and this is only the second funeral I have attended, the first of a close relative. What matters most is that you honor your own Discover proper funeral etiquette for handling the death of estranged family members. The fact that they're estranged often means we hear the news out of the blue, and this Estrangement is a healthy response to an unhealthy situation. I offered condolences and sent messages to the person's grown up children (my estranged cousins) to offer I was thinking of send her a letter very close to the funeral date, advising her that my mum had sadly passed away, so I was writing as I felt she'd want to know. mhcrn zod nsseeua pgmd imcjhid wdspij ectszdq vkp qjy bnhaqh